Divorce and children

The effects of divorce on children can be harsh. To strengthen the relationship with your children and to make separation less painful, it is important to discuss the divorce with your kids and explain them what is involved. This is an important step to take if you want them to maintain their trust in you.

Minimizing the conflict

To minimize the damaging effects of a divorce on children it's crucial to minimize the conflict between the parents. The younger the children, the more cooperation between the parents is going to be necessary. For the children to grow and develop normal, reassurance and approval is needed from both of the parents. Living under the same roof can be beneficial for the children but parents need to make sure they remember the main rule, minimizing the conflict.

Helping children adjust to divorce

Another way to minimize the effects of divorce on children is to make sure they feel loved and valued. Having both their parents involved in their every day life is the path to achieve it. If one of the parents is not living close by anymore it's still not hard to keep in touch with the kids through e-mails, phone, video conferences, etc. When going through a divorce it's a good thing to keep the children in the same area/neighborhood and school. Having their friends close to them will help them cope better.

It's also important to talk to your children about your concerns related to the divorce. This will help them understand what is happening. Make sure you don't put to much pressure on your children when it comes to your need of companionship and affection. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your children.

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